@nickdb and what about following:
The meter is configured as generic load meter, L1 is measuring grid input/output, L2 and L3 measuring loads. If we would be able to create a virtual meter in Victron with a source of L1 this would do the trick. The readings will be accurate and I would be able to use same meter for 2 purposes. In theory it should be doable on the Venus OS (just move values from one register into another).
Drawback, L1 would be still visible as Load (so probably would have to zero the reading).
Nodered has just introduced the concept, in beta, of virtual devices. So you can create a virtual grid meter and virtual PV meter, and feed from the individual phases of the actual meter.
Not officially supported, but it might work for you.